Someone asked me a question the other day and I realized that perhaps I’ve not been as clear as I thought I was about what my story is and why I am doing this coaching thing. So, let me tell you a bit about me….which, coming from someone who has been a licensed therapist for over 25 years, is no easy thing to do. We are, literally, trained to reveal very little about ourselves. Let me start by stating straight up that I love my work. I sincerely care about the clients I work with. Period. Full stop. There are days I suspect I have learned more from my clients than they have from my feedback.
Over the years I have been fortunate enough to work with a great number of people who have come to me at just about every stage of life from infancy to approaching the end. To this we’ll add the amazing family of origin, who not only tolerated my general curiosity about the world around me but also my unbridled enthusiasm to blurt out all that I saw; I’ve got crazy good observational skills. Sometimes that didn’t work out too well but age has toned that down…a bit…not much but a bit!
One more piece to add to the puzzle; there have been any number of role models in my life for how to face the aging process. Some of those people have shown me the ‘what not to do’ but a great many of them have shown me ‘what to do’. It is from both of those groups that I have learned the most. As you might guess, because I’ve been driven to focus on wellness, especially as it relates to approaching retirement and once in retirement, that some of those models of ‘what not to do’ were fairly powerful. Indeed, there have been too many people in my life and in the lives of those around me, who found themselves angry, upset and disappointed by what their Next Chapter brought them. I don’t want that for you.
I believe we have all worked hard and at some point we get to decide how we want to finish things for ourselves. I don’t want that time for you to be filled with uncomfortable feelings and I surely don’t want that for myself. I wish for you the very best that life has to offer. You’ve worked hard and will continue to do so but that doesn’t mean you can’t also have a great time of it too!
Being a therapist as well as a wellness coach has brought some challenges for me but I hope that for you there has been a slightly different spin on the topics that get covered here. As I’ve said before coaching is most certainly not therapy ~ there are some overlaps but not too many! What I love about being a coach is the focus on the here and now, the self-identified targets and all the positive we focus on.
My challenge for you this week? I’d ask you to figure out the same question I just answered; what’s prompting you today to do what you’re doing? What is making this all special for you?
All the best for your week!