With power comes the abuse of power. And where there are bosses, there are crazy bosses. It’s nothing new. ~ J. Rose
I so wish this were a post about Bruce Springsteen but sadly, it is not. Perhaps next week! What grabbed my attention this week were the numerous statements I heard on the variation of ‘my boss’, ‘the darn boss’ and ‘my idiot boss.’ On the elevator (not a wise place to complain about your boss because you have no idea who I might be!), as I sat waiting for the dentist (uttered by an aunt waiting to pick up her niece) and finally in a random radio piece unrelated to bosses in general. At some point in our lives we’re all likely to have one of those bosses. Sad but unless you’re working exclusively for yourself there will likely always be people who are asking/telling/mandating what needs to happen.
Some suggestions to help you manage until either your boss moves on or you do ~ hopefully because you retire or find a great new position!
Try not to take it personally. Your boss has their own issues that you don’t need to get caught up in nor do you need to be subjected to. If you need to separate out the wheat from the chaff, or in this case, the facts from the way or person who delivers those facts.
Take care of yourself! A difficult to manage boss is only more difficult to manage when you’re feeling run down or are otherwise not at your best.
Use your vacation time. Get out of there. Be sure to take the down time whether or not your boss feels it is appropriate to do so. In France they just passed a law that gives you the right to turn off your phone and not check your work e-mail at all hours of the day and night. Take a hint from them and do what you can to enforce downtime.
On that same note, take your lunch break. Or meal break or whatever you’re entitled to. Use it to meditate, read a book, make that call you need to return or better yet, be sure to eat a meal!
Don’t dwell on work when you’re not there. Talking about your boss or what new awfulness happened today is only prolonging the awfulness. Work stays at work.
And finally, find something positive to say each day. What we appreciate appreciates. When we focus on the good stuff it is easier to find more of it in our lives. Go out and seek it if you need to.
One of the better people I once had the luck to work with told me she modeled her management style on all the awful managers she had encountered, “I learned from them what I didn’t want to be and it was invaluable.” Wise woman.
Wishing you the best this week!