Its going to snow tonight…again. This might be one of the last rounds of frozen precipitation we see here in the Northeast this year as thankfully March is officially here, but you never know this year! Why is a wellness coach thinking about and using the weather as a topic for discussion this month? This winter has a lot to teach us about staying flexible. There are many things we cannot, in any way, shape or form, control or even influence; the weather is one of them.
Staying flexible is critical for us in many areas of our lives, especially as we grow older. Learning to be flexible about our plans, expectations and staying physically flexible will allow for a more graceful acceptance of those pieces, which are out of our control.
We plan for a day out with friends or a seminar we hope to lead. It snows. Or the venue is closed by a power outage. This is an opportunity to re-adjust what we’re going to do and how we’re going to do it. If we’ve been paying attention and realize there is a potential for plans to be changed due to circumstances its easy to have a back up plan in place; if not Monday then on Thursday. While is can be disappointing to have plans change it does happen and having a back up plan is very useful.
Expectations are another area where flexibility is useful. As mentioned in past posts expectations can easily set you up for disappointment or frustration. Expectations are great, and I’m all for them, but in moderation. No need to set yourself or anyone else up to not meet them and then feel badly about not having met them. When expectations are positioned too high we call this “setting up for failure”; a reach is good, an impossible goal only fuels the feeling that we’re not good enough or capable enough.
Expectations can get us into trouble in another way ~ if we have our eyes focused on what is likely to go wrong we can have a hard time seeing the situation when its going well! Staying open to possibilities, seeing things for what they are, is a great way for appreciating what comes our way. The snow days were a bummer in terms of client appointments but wow, were they great for read some new books and baked some bread on those days!
Any google search on ‘flexible’ will result in many options for staying physically flexible. I’m sure as a Thriver you already know the importance of staying flexible but in case you’ve not really bought into the idea please know this is going to impact the quality of your life for the rest of your life. Seriously. You will want to be able to tie your shoelace or button your shirt or shovel that snow off your car when you’re older. Now is the time to start on your way to a more flexible and healthy day!