Buy me! Purchase this! I have to have…! Do those sound familiar to you? As we get into the thick of holiday shopping its hard to keep your Thriving skills in mind amongst the holiday lights, potato latkes and thoughts of sugar plums dancing in your mind.

Here are some guidelines to help you keep yourself focused:

First things first ~ gifts don’t equate to how much we care about or love someone. Gifts are meant to let the recipients know we’re thinking of them or to thank them for what they’ve done for us.

Getting into debt is not the move of a Thriving Individual. Make a list, make a budget and keep yourself to it. Find that difficult? Use cash to keep your purchases in line with that budget.

Feeling like your budget is especially tight? Everyone has been there. A card, written with a special note, is an incredibly thoughtful, meaningful gift we can give any time. Think its not enough? It might not mean the same to a pre-school child but then again a package of new crayons would make them happy so yes, a note!

A Thriving Individual thinks about the recipient and not about what they would want for a gift. The great friend who is currently in the middle of downsizing isn’t going to want or need another soup pot; a donation to a charity she supports says you’re thinking about her and her needs.

Want to give a gift that is more homemade? If you’re handy in the kitchen you can make a batch of cookies or make a meal for someone. Want to offer more of a service? Thriving Individuals can give a gift in the form of a ‘gift certificate’ so that you can perhaps help someone with a chore they need to do or a driving errand they are having trouble with.

While its easy to get caught up in the rush of the holiday purchasing its best to know your limits and relax enough to enjoy the time you get to spend with family and friends.

Wishing you all the best for your holiday season!